Goal Planning for Actual People

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Now that the new year has begun & lots of people are already fizzling out on their lofty but well intentioned resolutions, let’s get real & talk about goals.

I’ll admit, I’m a serial overthinker. I’ve had elaborate goal planning systems that I’ve worked with to varying degrees of success in the past. Even a slight peek in an online search of “goal setting” will overwhelm you with complicated systems that guarantee your success.

Let’s get real. It’s not that serious.

You can’t give yourself a bunch of new stuff to do. You’re not gonna do it. You know this; I know this. It’ll just stress you out & piss you off, even if you have the most efficient execution system on the planet. Just pick something. One thing. Add other things when it won’t piss you off.

With that said, I’d like to share my simplified goal planning system. Feel free to try it out for yourself, & alter it however it would work best for you!

Annual

To start each year, I like to do some journaling & establish a few things :

  • Word (or theme) of the year, & why. Of course, this can be changed any time during the year if needed, but I like to have something simple & specific to focus on. Mine trend along the lines of “intention” & “simplify”.
  • A few questions :
    • What would you like to do this year?
    • What would you like to have?
    • Who would you like to be?
    • What would be the single coolest thing that could possibly happen this year?
    • What sort of legacy do you want to leave behind when you die?
  • What does your ideal life look like? The next level version of you? Consider the roles / areas / buckets of your life (whatever you prefer to call them). – How would you like to show up for these things in your daily life? Do you ideally need more or less of anything specific?
  • Create a vision board. Don’t get too crazy. The purpose of a vision board is to remind & inspire you. Only add images that truly resonate with you. Bonus points if you use your own photos!

Periodically

Every couple months I also like to do a “Level 10 Life” & “Role Review”. Beside a list of my life roles, I rate my satisfaction with each on a scale from 1-10, & I will sometimes choose what to work on based on my lower scores. If I feel the need to elaborate, I’ll do a brief review of each role by writing down how I feel (good or bad), why, & what I’d like to improve.

Each of these practices are intended to get you contemplating different goals that you could work on. Could being a key word because you really should only be focused on one thing at a time, so I encourage you to pick something that would have the greatest positive impact on your life, & aligns most with your values. Then…

Plan Your Goals

  1. Define the goal. What exactly do you want? What is the ideal end result? Why? Is this a task based project, a habit forming lifestyle change, or both?
  2. Create a plan & a system. What action steps can you take to move toward that ideal end result? Only give yourself functional tasks that will contribute real progress toward your goal. What systems or habits can you implement into your daily life to ensure you make consistent progress? And how can you keep yourself accountable?
  3. Execute the plan / system.
  4. Reflect weekly, and monthly. Ask yourself “Am I making progress here? How, or why not? How can I improve next week / month?” This is an essential step, so don’t skip it!
  5. Pivot, if needed.

That’s it. That’s what every single goal planning system boils down to. Don’t worry that you’re forgetting something – If it’s important, you’ll realize that & pivot thanks to your regular reflections! Just live your fucking life, & don’t overcomplicate it. (There’s a good goal idea!)

What would you like to work on this year? Let me know in the comments below – Maybe I can help!

7 Unconventional Goal Ideas for the New Year (start now!)

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New Year’s resolutions are stupid. People pledge to do this thing that they don’t have an actual system for, & change that thing for 2 weeks, & it doesn’t work. Let’s get real about personal growth & plan outside the box this year, shall we? Here are 7 unconventional goal ideas for the new year to contemplate executing now.

“Don’t Do” Bingo

Get a blank bingo grid (or use the one I made, at the end of this post) & fill the boxes with habits, relationships, or activities you want to let go of. If you feel satisfied that you’ve moved on from something on your bingo card, mark it off. When you get a “bingo”, you should treat yourself to a concert or something to celebrate your determination & self respect!

Theme

Instead of goals, choose a theme for the year. Be more intentional with how you show up for your daily life using this theme as a guide for your actions & decisions.

Feeling goals

What do you want to feel more of this year (peace, joy, etc)? Brainstorm activities to bring more of these feelings into your life!

What is your signature strength?

What is your signature strength? Are you particularly good at writing, teaching, or making people laugh? Consider ways to use this strength more intentionally in your daily life.

Set monthly challenges for yourself

You could experiment with different lifestyles by trying a special diet for a week, a scheduled “do nothing day” each week, or a digital minimalism month with no social media one week, no electronics after 10pm another week, & so on. You could also commit to dabbling into learning about a different topic you’ve been interested in each month, like a new language, skill, or hobby – dabbling lessens the pressure of mastery!

Plan mini adventures

Monthly, if possible! A hike or a bike ride & then out for lunch is always fun. Or you could check out a local historical spot you’ve never visited. Museums, zoos, & art galleries are often open year round, and you can camp out at some national parks for free (or cheap!)

Start a gratitude box

Get a big empty jar or cigar box, & add small notes or mementos to it throughout the year. Whenever you need a little boost of gratitude, pop it open & review your deposits!

Conclusion

That are a lot of fulfilling ways to set goals that don’t involve the rigidity of typical systems. Think outside the box & expand your horizons!

What unique goals do you have for the coming year? I’d love to hear them in the comments below!

And here’s a simple “Don’t Do Bingo” card, if you’d like to use it 😊

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Where I’m At #3

“Where I’m at” posts are just random updates about what’s going on in my life at any random time, based on the areas / roles in my life. Any particular goals I’m working on will be highlighted, so you can easily see what I’m actively working on improving (and see that I do try to practice what I preach). Leave a comment & give me ideas for things you’d like to see me write individual posts about!

  • planner : Trying to refresh my whole system ahead of the new year because I feel a bit stagnant. I’m testing out a simplified morning routine, a more insight driven journaling routine, and a more simplified goal planning system.
  • self (body & mind, emotion & education) : Ugh. So my whole family had COVID for a week or so, right? I had worse symptoms than everyone else (I’ll spare you the details lol), and then I developed a sinus infection, which I’m still dealing with. So, everything’s a bit blah for me right now, but I’m trying to take it a bit easy while also trying to get back on track with everything.
  • marriage (relationship & libido) : We’re doing alright. I’ve been too sick to focus much on us, but we’re getting through it.
  • mom (BooBoo & Bubby) : The kids are still a bit sneezy & tired, but tis the season lol.
  • teacher (K & PK) : The girls are doing great with school! BooBoo hates phonics, but she enjoys surprising herself when she can read certain longer words! Bubby can pretty much count to 20, & is working beyond that already! And her fine motor skills haven’t gotten pretty impressive!!!
  • zB : I’m pretty proud of the progress I’ve made with my passion project 🥰 I have my business plan all situated, and goals set for next year. I’m excited to see where this journey will take me, & I hope you’re excited to join me!!
  • homemaker (finance, cleaning, gardening, prepping, travel) : Yeahh. Lol. Finances are doing good! I’ve been testing Betterment’s high interest savings & investment accounts, and I’m pretty pleased! (I’m interested in other options too though, if anyone wants to share!) Everything else is kind of…unimportant right now. Except for Xmas decor hehehe!
  • witch : Nothing going on here. I’ve just been trying to meditate my way through my sicknesses.
  • reseller : Effortlessly made a couple sales on eBay, but I’m not really doing anything here either.

On an additional note, Frontier DSL has been the bane of my existence for the past couple of weeks. Well, Frontier in general, really.

Currently

eating : soup! 🍜

drinking : tea ☕

watching : YouTube, cuz I can’t stream anything else with how terrible my internet’s been! Lots of Moe Sargi, and some bigfoot videos lol

reading : Nothing. I keep trying to read the 4 Hour Workweek, but I just get so burned out on it!

playing : Bingo Showdown & Candy Crush

buying : Xmas gifts! And bday gifts for hubby & bubby!

listening to : YouTube

celebrating : Xmas, Yule, & bdays!

pinning : yoga, Green Day, homeschool

planning on taking it a bit easy so I can heal

feeling : Sicky 😫

Where are you at right now? Let me know in the comments below!!