Reignite Your Childhood Hobbies: How Play Can Spark Joy in Adulthood

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What did you love to do as a kid? And why the hell did you stop?

Oh yeah, work. And family. And life got in the way.

By the time you finally get a few moments, youโ€™re too wiped out to do more than scroll or crash in front of Netflix.

But is that leaving you feeling fulfilled at the end of the day? Probably not.

So hereโ€™s an invitation to consider reigniting some of your youthful passions and bring some spark back into your life, at least a couple days a week!

The Compass of Childhood Joy

Whatever lit you up as a kid or a teenager might still give you clues as to what would make you happy as an adult.

It doesnโ€™t matter if they were solo hobbies like writing & reading or active hobbies like skateboarding & playing sports – donโ€™t you think those things might still bring you joy today?

And what do these kinds of activities say about who you were, and still are?

Literal Play vs. Adult Adaptation

Of course, not every childhood hobby fits neatly into adulthood.

If you liked pretending you were a superhero or building blanket forts, those are great ways to bond with your own kids or nieces & nephews. Or just playing by yourself, Iโ€™m not here to judge! – You could create a cozy reading nook instead of a blanket fort, or become an EMT instead of pretending to be a superhero!

Most childhood hobbies can be adapted in some way to your adult life. Pretend games can turn into fabulous fiction books, and climbing trees can look like hiking or mountain climbing.

The possibilities are endless! The point is that play matters throughout your life, regardless of whether itโ€™s literal or adapted.

Nostalgia as Medicine

Returning to old hobbies isnโ€™t just fun โ€” itโ€™s healing! Youโ€™re reclaiming pieces of yourself that were left behind.

Nostalgia can be a form of self-care (for example: adult coloring books, roller skating comebacks, LEGOs for grown-ups).

Passion First, Profit Second

Some hobbies can even evolve into businesses and โ€œside hustlesโ€, but you need to be aware of your passion levels throughout – monetizing too soon can kill the joy, & if itโ€™s not fun, why do it?!?

Writing has always been a thread in my life. As a kid, I made weekly comics for my classmates. That grew into short stories, then poetry, then even some (slightly rebellious) light erotic fiction. For a while, life got in the way and I stopped โ€” but when I sat down to write a little book on goal setting, I remembered how much fun it was. Since then, writing has evolved into blogging, poetry, fiction, and whatever else sparks me in the moment. No profit yet โ€” maybe someday โ€” but the real win is that I found the joy again.

My friend Josh is the perfect example. In high school, his passion was playing guitar. But when it came time for college, he chose engineering โ€” something he was good at, but didnโ€™t love โ€” because it promised steady money. Still, he found ways to keep music alive, freelancing as a guitar teacher and joining a band. When the pandemic hit, he leaned on engineering and made solid money designing blueprints, but he hated every minute of it. As soon as restrictions lifted, he dropped the job and went back to teaching guitar and playing shows. Now he makes a living doing what he loves, and I couldnโ€™t be prouder. ๐Ÿ˜Š

Hobbies as a Shortcut to Excitement

Remember my Excitement Map post?

Are any of your childhood hobbies on there? Should they be?

They might be a gateway to the โ€œFuck Yeahโ€ zone! ๐Ÿ˜œ

Journaling Prompts

Want to go deeper? Grab your journal and play with these questions. Sometimes the answer to โ€˜What lights me up?โ€™ is already sitting in the toy box you left behindโ€ฆ

  • What were my top 3 favorite hobbies as a kid? What feelings did each give me?
  • If I had one whole Saturday with zero responsibilities, which of those hobbies would I instinctively do first?
  • Are there ways to adapt my old hobbies into adult life? (Ex: blanket forts โ†’ interior design or cozy home rituals; rollerblading โ†’ dance or hikingโ€ฆor even roller derby!; pretend games โ†’ creative writing).
  • Which of my hobbies still sneak into my life now, even in small ways?
  • What does this say about who I am โ€” then and now?
  • How could I reclaim even one hour a week for something I loved as a child?
  • What hobby could I share with my kids, friends, or partner as a way of reconnecting with play?
  • Do I feel pressure to monetize my hobbies? If so, how would it feel to let them only be for joy again?
  • What piece of myself do I think Iโ€™ll โ€œget backโ€ by doing this hobby again?

Itโ€™s never too late to pick up the sketchbook, the rollerblades, the guitar.

Try one this week. Play, create, explore โ€” then come back and let me know how it felt.

See if it still makes you โ€œfuck yeahโ€!

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Weight Loss Without Misery: What Worked for Me (So Far)

Iโ€™ve lost over 15 pounds! ๐Ÿ˜๐Ÿ‘

That’s halfway to my goal!! ๐Ÿฅณ

Ever since my doctor told me my cholesterol was โ€œelevatedโ€ (though, as I’ve been told by everyone else, โ€œwhose isn’t?!?โ€), I made an honest effort to make some changes to my health.

My main goal is to feel better, however. A better mindset has been the most rewarding side effect of all the dieting & exercise Iโ€™ve been doing the past couple months – weight loss & toned muscles are just a bonus.

Letโ€™s review my efforts so farโ€ฆ

Diet

Iโ€™ve been following a โ€œmindful eatingโ€ diet plan set up with the help of ChatGPT. It helped me set up a schedule so that I wouldnโ€™t get too hungry by dinnertime (& thus shovel a bunch of food in my face).

Hereโ€™s what that looks like :

Mindful Eating Schedule

  • 10:00 – lemon / lime water
  • 11:00 – fruit
  • 1:30 – salad w/ protein
  • 4:00 – smoothie / yogurt
  • 6:30 – veggies with hummus
  • 8:00 – dinner
  • 11:30 – dark chocolate & nuts
  • 1:00 – fruit

I donโ€™t follow this strictly, but itโ€™s been proving to be pretty good guidelines for me. Iโ€™m trying to focus on eating mostly veggies & protein. Through ideas from Tim Ferrissโ€™ slow carb diet, part of my weekly โ€œdo nothing dayโ€ includes โ€œgoing crazyโ€ (which has definitely helped me keep my sanity!) And on days when we find ourselves on an adventure, I just try to stay mindful of what I order out (without depriving myself of the glorious BBQ of summer!)

Iโ€™ve also been counting calories using an app called โ€œMy Net Diaryโ€. It makes sense to take in fewer calories than you burn off throughout each day, so itโ€™s been making me more aware of what Iโ€™m eating. And I love it!

โ€œDonโ€™t drink caloriesโ€ has been a big realization for me – I didnโ€™t realize how ridiculous my coffee creamer was! (Bet your ass Iโ€™ve got a generous amount of it plus a shot of Trader Vicโ€™s macadamia nut liqueur in there on โ€œgo crazy dayโ€ though! ๐Ÿ˜‹)

Exercise

I forgot how much I love to exercise!

I started with just 5 minutes a day, and have built myself up to about 45 minutes (give or take).

I do different things daily, all movements that I love (which is key to maintaining the routine!) :

  • 20min cardio / dance
  • 15min arms / bellydancing
  • 10min yoga / tai chi / qi gong

Iโ€™ve always been interested in belly dancing, and now that Iโ€™ve been doing YouTube videos regularly, Iโ€™m seriously considering signing up for a local belly dancing group. (How I would love to create & perform a routine to some ska & rockabilly – The thought of complementing โ€œKing For A Dayโ€ with the chimes of a bellydancing belt is just too adorable! ๐Ÿ˜Š)

On โ€œgo crazyโ€ days, I stick to just yoga, tai chi, and qi gong. And definitely not for 45 minutes!

I realized I have a bit of trouble with tai chi & qi gong because Iโ€™ve been practicing yoga for over 20 years. Yoga is about releasing energy and gradually improving flexibility, balance, & strength; where tai chi & qi gong are more about energy movement & manipulation, and range of motion. The movements in yoga tend to be more โ€œgrandioseโ€ than those with tai chi, so I struggle to slow down and flow with the โ€œchiโ€. But both types of movements have their appropriate times.

Smokingโ€ฆ..

Wellโ€ฆhehโ€ฆoops! ๐Ÿ˜ฌ

(Iโ€™m such an assholeโ€ฆโ€ฆ)

I quit smoking over 6 years ago, when I was pregnant with my oldest. However, I vaped until a couple of months ago when Iโ€™d lowered the nicotine level in my vape so low that I realized it was all psychological habit instead of addiction. So I quit.

I kept a pack of Camels around that Iโ€™d smoke maybe one or two a year if shit hit the fan & I needed a little nihilism.

Well, I needed a little nihilism amidst my recent โ€œmid-life crisisโ€, & now Iโ€™m smoking more than Iโ€™d like to admit.

I gotta quit. Again.

Itโ€™s honestly kinda low on my list of concerns, though, to be honest. (A post on that soonโ€ฆprobably.)

Iโ€™ve really been enjoying sneaking off to the nooks & crannies of my yard to see whatever nature I can while Iโ€™m out there though – hummingbirds, butterflies, chipmunks, & squirrels throwing crabapples at me.

Health Log on Notion

I’ve been using Notion to help me keep track of everything (as always).

I have a database with a template set up to reset daily.

In the properties, I track how many fruits & veggies I eat each day, water, exercise types, calories, steps, cigs, and some other stuff.

The note itself contains my โ€œmindful eating scheduleโ€, a food log, exercise log, and space for reflections (I realized during yoga yesterday how cranky my knees have gotten omg!)

This is making it super easy to not only stay mindful throughout the day but also reflect & pivot as needed each week!

Lessons Iโ€™ve Learned

  • Diet is the most important thing to focus on if you want to lose weight. You can exercise all you want, but if youโ€™re shoveling candy & chips in your face all day, you wonโ€™t make any progress.
  • Exercise is important for overall health. Not just mental & physical vitality, but also to tone up your muscles. So move your ass – Youโ€™ll lose weight a lot quicker!
  • Start small & build up to where you feel like you need to be. I slowly reduced my calorie โ€œallowancesโ€ and started with 5 minutes of exercise (building gradually each week).
  • Do things you enjoy. I like the foods I eat on my schedule, & they make me feel good. I love dance cardio & belly dancing. If I tried jogging daily, it wouldnโ€™t last long (Iโ€™ve tried, & it didnโ€™t.) Do whatever keeps you interested.

Iโ€™ve still got a long way to go, but Iโ€™m damn proud of how far Iโ€™ve come. If youโ€™re working on your own health journey โ€” remember, baby steps and curiosity go a long way. Youโ€™ve got this.

Have you started (or restarted) a health habit lately? Tell me about it โ€” Iโ€™d love to hear.

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Solo Shows, Old Ghosts, and Decent Beer: A Night Out with Myself

Wall of Guitars at the Riviera Theater

(In case you missed it, you can read my pervious post for context here : Grief, Love, and Loud Music: Why Iโ€™m Chasing a Ghost at a Rock Show)

I had a pretty good time at the Reverend Horton Heat show! By myself. My absolute only real complaint was that the seats were super small & there was no โ€œpitโ€.

Before

My car has a power steering leak, but that sure as hell wasnโ€™t about to stop me lol! I parked in a slightly sketchy spot around the corner from the venue, on the street so I could get out easily afterward.

I ended up walking a block in the other direction to pick up a pack of sneaky smokes – they didnโ€™t have my Camels, so I settled for Marb Blacks. $15, oof! Good thing I’m not a regular smoker lol!!

Bought myself a can of Molson because they didnโ€™t even have Budweiser at the bar (though I prefer Rolling Rock). $7 for a can of beer! But it was worth it to not have to listen to screaming children all day LOL! Had some nostalgic fun hanging out in the venueโ€™s โ€œpatioโ€. It was unusually chilly, but refreshing.

During

How have I never heard of Zydeco music?!?

Nathan and the Zydeco Cha Chas were lots of fun! They encouraged everyone to get up & dance for most of their set, which was exactly what I needed! Nathan & the washboard player even wandered around the crowd & got everyone moving, & now Iโ€™m officially a fan! ๐Ÿคฉ

RHH did their thing โ€” solid as always โ€” but the crowd was kind of a buzzkill. I had fun singing along to most of their songs, but everyone else at the show is such a drag, itโ€™s absurd to me. Itโ€™s nice to see the band, but the crowd kinda ruins it for me to be honest – why go to a show if you’re not gonna dance?!? I got a shirt & a tote bag, and ducked out a little early to beat the crowd (cuz, yโ€™know, power steering). (Oh, and because my phone was dying & I wanted to make sure I knew how to get home lol.)

Him

I didn’t see him at all. I wasn’t looking too hard, but for all I know he’s dead ๐Ÿ˜‘ Or he moved to another state. Or he just wasn’t there. Or he was & I just didn’t see him. Lol. Either wayโ€ฆ

I’m disappointed that I didn’t get a chance to at least say hi. I left still feeling a bit lost. Something’s still missing.


But yeah, I left with a mix of peace and confusion. But overallโ€ฆ

It was a fulfilling time. I got to feel like myself for a few hours. Lots of smiles & dancing a bit hehe โ˜บ๏ธ

If youโ€™ve ever chased a memory to a loud venue or danced your heart out just to feel something real โ€” I see you.

Tell me about your favorite solo adventure, or a night that surprised you. Iโ€™d love to hear it.

And if youโ€™re new here, hit subscribe and stick around for more stories from the edge of chaos.

Rock on. ๐Ÿ–ค

Overcoming Writerโ€™s Block During a Mental Sh*tstorm

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Iโ€™ve really been struggling with what to write on here lately. My brain has been clouded with a bit of a shitstorm, & Iโ€™ve needed some time to see if the chaos settles.

Itโ€™s been months. Iโ€™m lucky I had a backlog of posts to ride on, but that well is just about dry. Soโ€ฆ now what?!

Brainstorming

If youโ€™re in a similar boat, letโ€™s ask ourselves some questions :

  • Thinking : Whatโ€™s been on your mind lately? What have you been thinking about a lot?
  • Feeling : How have you been feeling? That could be channeled into a โ€œtopicโ€ post or a โ€œhow to deal withโ€ article.
  • Knowing : What do you know in your soul during this chapter of your life? Orโ€ฆwhat have you been learning about recently that you could share with others?

Ramble

Just roll with it. Thatโ€™s what Iโ€™m doing right now, LOL! Roll with it until you hit the bottom โ€” or better yet, a breakthrough. Set a timer if you want. Clean it up tomorrow, or next week. Just get something going.

Ask AI

Just about everyone does it these days. AI bots like ChatGPT & Claude are great at not only cleaning up fragmented thoughts, but even at prompting you to expand on your ideas. Itโ€™s not cheating if you donโ€™t copy & paste AI-generated content.

Share

The most important part. Even if it sucks, even if youโ€™re scared. Everyoneโ€™s got an audience & a community, and sharing helps us all find each other.


Writerโ€™s block sucks, but youโ€™re not alone โ€” and you donโ€™t have to be perfect to be heard. So hit publish, and let it out. Your people will get it.

๐Ÿ”ฅ Drop your favorite writerโ€™s block hacks in the comments. Or just tell me what youโ€™ve been avoiding writing. Letโ€™s unblock together.

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Plot Twists : An Edgy Guide to Fighting (or Befriending) Your Misery

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Embrace the Mess

Lately, I just want to crawl under a pile of pillows & blankets & disappear. After pushing through an intense amount of drama for over two yearsโ€ฆIโ€™m exhausted! I feel like a bounce house with a hole in it – no matter how much air I put in, it just wonโ€™t fill up.

To add to the stress, my past trauma has been slapping me in the face recently too. Because, as everyone whoโ€™s dealt with any sort of trauma knows (which is everyone, eventually) – healing is cyclical. You never fully heal, you cycle through periods of it being in your face, then growing through the pain, then carrying on with your life, and back around over the course of years. The goal is just to not let it consume your life.

(This is my warning for my posts this month – I am super behind, because Iโ€™m really struggling to find my own peace right now. It is what it is.)

Truth is, I didnโ€™t fail at self-care (& neither are you if youโ€™re feeling a similar way). Weโ€™re all human – occasionally stressed, foggy, & worn out from lifeโ€™s latest plot twist. This article definitely isnโ€™t about toxic positivity; itโ€™s about looking for tools that work.

Suffering is like whack a mole – โ€œEvery time you knock down one kind of pain, another one pops up. And the faster you whack them, the faster they come back.โ€ โ€œEverything is fucked. It always has been and always will beโ€ฆ itโ€™s time we stop running from that and, instead, embrace it.โ€ (Mark Manson, Everything is Fucked)

Name Your Nemesis

In my experience, depression and anxiety are two sides of the same coin – while one may be โ€œface upโ€, the other is stillโ€ฆthere.

Sadness / Apathy = depression = fixation on the past

Fear = anxiety = fixation on the future

Different beasts require different weaponsโ€ฆ

Choose Your Battle : Acceptance or Rebellion

Write it out : Whatโ€™s bothering you? Could it be trying to tell you something useful? Can you control any aspect of it? If yes, what can you do to improve the situation? If no, how can you work to accept the situation without letting it consume you?

10 Rebel Approved Rituals to Recharge Your Soul

  1. Midnight hikes. An endorphin boost from the peace & quiet of solitude. Plus, everything looks different at night. (Just please be safe!)
  2. Messy art sessions. No rules, no judgment. The messier the better!
  3. Silent 24-hour retreat. Stare down & battle your inner monologue.
  4. Cold plunge shock. Jolt your nervous system awake.
  5. Face down pillow burial. Embrace the collapseโ€ฆ& then rise from the ashes.
  6. Journal as a witness. Be an active observer of your life
  7. Identity cigarette moment. Reclaim a bit of yourselfโ€ฆmindfully. (Not a health tip, just some raw honesty. – I quit smoking 6 years ago. But Iโ€™ve had a pack of Camels for over 3 years now lol – & I only smoke maybe once or twice a year. It was such a strong part of my identity, so I enjoy indulging once in a while. And the โ€œ7th grade body buzzโ€ is a trip too LOL iykyk)
  8. Stoic love swap. Replace anger or fear with acts or thoughts of love.
  9. Micro hobby project. Crochet, blogging, coding, whatever. Bonus points if you can make some money off it.
  10. X detox. Get off your phone / distract yourself from picking fights on X (why are you even on X anymore? Nevermind, I’m not here to judge lol)

Self-Acceptance and Self Love Reminders

  • Core creed : Do whatever you want in life, just donโ€™t hurt anyone (including yourself)
  • Happiness formula (Rita Mae Brown) : someone to love + something to do + something to look forward to
  • When your brain literally wonโ€™t cooperate, focus on the basics – exercise, sleep, journaling, learning, & progress. Progress isnโ€™t linear, & simplicity always wins.

Build Your Own โ€œEmotional First Aid Kitโ€

Mix & match from the suggestions above – see what works for you at different times & for different situations. Keep track of tried & true ideas in your journal for future reference.

The Ever-Unfinished Experiment

Self improvement & personal growth isn’t a chore – itโ€™s your rebellion.

Check out this article I really liked : Feeling Lost and Unmotivated? Read This.

๐Ÿ’ฌ Whatโ€™s in your personal emotional first aid kit?

Iโ€™d love to hear what weird, wild, or wonderful tools help you climb out of the fog. Drop a comment below, share this with a friend who needs it, or subscribe if you havenโ€™t yet โ€” more rebel resources are on the way.

Stay weird. Stay kind. Stay you. ๐Ÿ’€โœจ

Rock on!

From Idea to Action: Starting a New Project When Youโ€™re Overthinking Everything

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The Myth of the Perfect Start

If youโ€™re the type of person who has 1,039 ideas but never takes the plunge – this oneโ€™s for you!

Waiting for the โ€œright timeโ€ is usually just fear in disguise. You donโ€™t need clarity, confidence, or even competence to start something meaningful.

Screw perfection – Start now. Fuck shit up. Fix it later.

Know What Youโ€™re Chasing

Use the Japanese idea of Ikigai as your compass :

  • What do you love?
  • What are you good at? (Or willing to get good at.)
  • What could make money or even support you financially?
  • What does the world (or your world) need more of?

Donโ€™t aim for a perfect life plan – aim for a starting point that feels aligned. What do you want to try?

From Vibe to Vision (The Idea to Reality Map)

  • Step 1 : The Idea. Jot it down, doodle it, whatever – Turn the abstract into something.
  • Step 2 : The Pre-Screen. Ask yourself :
    • How will this benefit me?
    • Who else would benefit?
    • What sparked this idea?
    • Whatโ€™s the best case scenario?
    • How bad do I want this? (1-10)
      • If itโ€™s a 7+, GO FOR IT! If not, ditch it guilt-free.
  • Step 3 : Brainstorm & break down into actionable planning tiers :
    • Monthly : big research, tools, skills; break it down into the smallest steps possible
    • Weekly : pick 2-3 small actions from monthly tasks
    • Daily : 10-20 minutes of movement = momentum

Use the โ€œ5 Whysโ€ to Crush Fear & Find Truth

According to Ryder Carroll in โ€œThe Bullet Journal Methodโ€, designers at Toyota have been using the following exercise for decades to get to the root of problems.

Identify a problem. Answer why itโ€™s a problem. Answer why thatโ€™s a problem. And so on.

For example :

Problem – Iโ€™m afraid to start.

Why? Because I might fail.

Why? Because I havenโ€™t practiced.

Why? Because I havenโ€™t started.

Why? โ€ฆoh.

This method forces clarity. It hurts in all the best ways.

Channel Your Inner Cato (Or Whoever You Admire)

Cato didnโ€™t wait for applause. He practiced discomfort, led by example, and acted.

Who do you admire, whoโ€™s doing what you want to do?

What are they doing, and how can you do that in your own unique ways?

What would they do? (Theyโ€™d just fucking do the things.)

Build in Public, Brand Organically

Thereโ€™s no need to look polished right out the gate – all brands evolve. Share the mess, and let people watch you grow – we should all inspire each other, donโ€™t you think?

Iโ€™ve done it twice!

I thought being a reseller would be fun (& it was at first). So I did a little research, got the supplies I needed, & spent a few years selling stuff online. I learned that it wasnโ€™t nearly as hard as Iโ€™d built it up to be in my head once I was actually doing it. In time, it became almost effortless!

zen BLITZ started as a jewelry shop online. Why? I have no idea LOL! I had fun making stuff, & hubby told me to try selling it. I hated it, but I never gave up my brand. And here we are now, doing the things I enjoy (writing & creating digital products) & growing by the day!

Use the 20 Minute Rule to Make Big Decisions Easy

I read a fun newsletter from Ali Abdaal, where he expanded on an idea from Tim Ferriss.

  1. Create a hypothesis. โ€œI think I might want toโ€ฆโ€
  2. Run a โ€œminimum viable experimentโ€. Write a post. Launch a landing page. Try it for 20 minutes a day for 2 weeks.

Learn fast. Adjust faster. Donโ€™t bet your life – just test the water.

The Only Thing You Need : Action

Perfection is procrastination in a fancier outfit. Take one weird, ugly, probably wrong step. Then another. And another. Momentum leads to mastery.

If it sucks, GOOD! That means youโ€™re making progress.

Youโ€™re Required to Start Small & Weird

Forget polished. If youโ€™re excited, youโ€™re already ready. Just start.

You can be a professional witch, digital punk, homeschooler entrepreneur, or whatever wild idea youโ€™ve got.

Burn your idea of โ€œthe right wayโ€ and build a new one.

You donโ€™t need to be sure. You donโ€™t need to be perfect. You just need to begin.

๐Ÿ”ฅ Got a wild idea simmering? Leave a comment, share your dream, or DM me what you’re finally starting.

Subscribe here for more anti-fluff fuel & creative rebellion tips every week. Letโ€™s make shit happen.

Rock on!

How to Manifest Without the Woo: A Real-World Guide for Rebels

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Manifestationโ€ฆBut Make It Punk

Hereโ€™s my rally cry to my fellow weirdos, skeptics, overthinkers, & black sheep dreamers who want more out of life but refuse to vision board it with a fake smile & a $6 latte. The word โ€œmanifestingโ€ itself might sound like glitter & girlbossing – but fuck all that.

This isnโ€™t about fake positivity & mood boards, or waiting on the universe like itโ€™s Uber Eats. True manifestation is about clarity, commitment, & creation, not crystals & vibes. Itโ€™s about owning what you want, & doing the work to get it.

โ€œManifesting sounds silly, but itโ€™s real.โ€ – Darius Foroux

Manifestation = Focus, Not Magic

You donโ€™t need rituals directed to the spirits of the universe or a woke third eye – just a decision & a direction. All manifestation really means is putting your energy toward something specific instead of letting it leak everywhere.

Itโ€™s clarity & consistent action. Thatโ€™s it. You donโ€™t even have to believe in yourself to begin, you just have to start. Confidence is the result, not the starting requirement.

Daydream With Purpose

The โ€œmisfitโ€ version of manifestation isnโ€™t about pretending things are already perfect, itโ€™s about getting honest about what you want. Let yourself imagine your wild, weird, perfect life shit – thatโ€™s your target.

Ask yourself:

  • What do I keep fantasizing about?
  • What kind of day do I want to wake up to?
  • If no one were watching, what would I create?

The Misfit Manifestation Method

Hereโ€™s the no-frills, anti-fairy-dust game plan :

  • Step 1 : Choose ONE thing. Donโ€™t try to manifest everything – start with one goal. Money? Energy? Space to create? Youโ€™ll gain momentum once you start.
  • Step 2 : Make a rough plan. It doesnโ€™t need to be a 90-day strategic breakdown. Justโ€ฆwhat can you do today? What needs to happen this week? Even a messy plan beats waiting for the planets to align in your favor.
  • Step 3 : Do the stuff. Show up. Make the call. Post the thing. Build the system. Learn the tool. Action builds belief, not the other way around.
  • Step 4 : Adjust, donโ€™t quit. If itโ€™s not working, then whatever. Tweak it. Pivot. Realign. Your goals are supposed to evolve. Just donโ€™t ghost yourself when it gets uncomfortable.

Why โ€œBelieving in Yourselfโ€ is Overrated

Itโ€™s normal to lack confidence when you start anything – how else can you learn?

Action builds confidence. Every time you show up, you grow. Stronger regret comes from what you didnโ€™t do, not from trying & shifting course as needed.

Rebel Energy & Relentless Faith

Youโ€™re not here to live a quiet, tiny life full of half-finished dreams. And you donโ€™t need perfect clarity or inner peace to begin – you need grit, vision, & the willingness to try.

Daydream. Focus. Act. Adjust. Repeat.

Manifest like a misfit & create the weird, wild life you were made for.

You donโ€™t need a vision board. You need a spine, a soul, & a reason.

If this fired you up, share it with a fellow misfit whoโ€™s tired of waiting for signs and ready to make moves. Letโ€™s manifest like we mean it โ€” no glitter required.

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How to Use Novelty to Feel More Alive Every Day

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Routines Are Greatโ€ฆUntil Theyโ€™re Not

Routines can be sacred. Especially if youโ€™re a homeschooling parent, productivity junkie, or even just trying to survive.

But even the most solid system can become a cage if you never step outside of it – โ€œDonโ€™t let your rituals become rutsโ€.

Novelty Slows Down Time

While structure is great, so is knowing when to burn it down for a day or two.

I was reminded by Ali Abdaalโ€™s โ€œHoliday Paradoxโ€ video that our sense of time flies by when every day looks the same because our brains switch into autopilot.

But when you experience something new, your brain takes more mental โ€œsnapshotsโ€, making time feel longer, fuller, richer.

โ€œLife is long if you know how to use it.โ€ – Seneca

Give Your Brain a Jolt (On Purpose)

Schedule regular adventures, & treat them like an appointment youโ€™ll get arrested for if you miss.

You donโ€™t have to get too crazy or too rigid about it – it could be a random Tuesday hike, working from a grocery store cafe, or even a spontaneous dance party in the kitchen.

The point is to get weird on purpose. Let your brain break the pattern. Novelty naturally makes you more creative, resilient, & present.

The Power of a โ€œFuck Itโ€ Day

Iโ€™ve mentioned my โ€œDo Nothing Daysโ€ before – once a week, I give myself full permission to say โ€œfuck itโ€ to my whole routine. And itโ€™s a breath of fresh air!

So skip the lesson plan, leave the dishes, & toss your planner out the window (metaphorically).

These days are to recalibrate your spirit, & remind you that youโ€™re not a robot.

Right next to my kitchen sink ๐Ÿ˜†

Flexibility is Strength

While routines can help us thrive, adaptability keeps us alive.

Donโ€™t let your days blur into one big beige loop. Add some neon. Smash a routine or two. And if you try it this week โ€” I wanna hear about it! Letโ€™s swap weird ideas in the comments.

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Youโ€™re not a robot. Rock on.

Screw the Bland Diet : A No-BS Approach to Lowering Cholesterol Without Losing Your Mind

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The Wake Up Call : Why Iโ€™m Even Talking About This

A couple of weeks ago, I went and got my annual lab work done for my PCP. Unexpectedly, I got a call from one of the nurses letting me know my cholesterol levels are a bit elevatedโ€”she said, โ€Heart healthy diet & exercise, and follow-up lipid panel in six months.โ€ And thatโ€™s literally it. That was the whole conversation.

My father had cardiovascular issues, and as his primary caregiver I already knew how to approach a โ€œheart healthy dietโ€ and whatnot. If I didnโ€™t, Iโ€™d be freaking out. (Which is one of many reasons why I loathe the current state of the American โ€œhealthcareโ€ system, but thatโ€™s a rant for another day. Donโ€™t be afraid to ask questions โ€” your health team works for you.) So, the information in this post is based on past and current research. While I do have some healthcare education and experience, I am not a doctor and this article is not intended to substitute for professional medical advice. I just want to share what Iโ€™ve learned and how Iโ€™m approaching this situation.

Bite Sized Explanation – LDL vs non-HDL Cholesterol

Both of these were noted as โ€œhighโ€ in my lab report, which means my overall cholesterol levels are considered elevated.

LDL cholesterol refers to one specific type of lipoprotein, while non-HDL cholesterol refers to โ€œall potentially harmful cholesterol particles in the bloodโ€.

In other words, LDL is like the reckless driver and non-HDL is a full report of all the troublemakers in the area. HDL is the good guy.

Iโ€™m choosing empowerment over panic – Iโ€™ve been wanting to improve my physical health game, and this is just a nudge to level up!

Cholesterol Isnโ€™t Evil, But You Might Be Eating Like An Asshole

(I know Iโ€™ve been!)

The real villains are saturated and trans fats (not cholesterol itself), so check your nutrition labels accordingly. Everything in moderation.

Simple dietary swaps wonโ€™t ruin your life –

  • Instead of butter & cream > use olive oil or avocado
  • Instead of fatty meats & processed snacks > go for leaner proteins (chicken, salmon, legumes) & whole foods (fresh fruits & veggies)
  • Instead of hard cheeses > try softer, less processed options (like feta)
  • Instead of having coffee with your creamer (lol) > sip on black coffee (youโ€™ll get the same kick!)

Foods that actively help :

  • Soluble fiber (oats, beans, fruits) sweeps away cholesterol like a janitor listening to the Dead Kennedys
  • Foods fortified with plant sterols & stanols. (What the hell are those you ask? Me too!) Apparently these naturally occurring plant chemicals reduce absorption of dietary cholesterol in the body, but theyโ€™re found in such small amounts in the plants themselves that some food manufacturers will fortify certain (often high caloric) foods with them. They can also be found in supplements. (Just drink some OJ, eat some nuts & seeds, andโ€ฆdonโ€™t eat like an asshole?)

Move Like You Mean It

Exercise isnโ€™t just for getting shredded – it raises HDL (good) cholesterol and improves heart health.

You donโ€™t need a gym membership – walking, dancing, lifting your kid 600 times a day all count. The key is to find some movement that doesnโ€™t bore you to death – skateboarding, hiking, karate – whatever keeps you coming back!

Iโ€™m pretty fond of Juice & Toya on YouTube – they use fun music, different routines & moves in each video, and thereโ€™s plenty to choose from!

Vices & Fixes : Smoking, Vaping, & Stress

Smoking is an HDL killer – so quitting gives your good cholesterol a boost! And studies have shown that vaping isnโ€™t a loophole (damn.) – it has similar effects as smoking. Both stress out your liver (which regulates cholesterol), cause inflammation, & expose your body to more toxins than you already do just by being alive. So stop it (Iโ€™m yelling at myself here.)

Psychological stress & cholesterol are BFFs too (& not in a good way). Practice stoicism or selective apathy, meditate, or just scream into the void – find a way to decompress.

Genetics : Are You Screwed At Birth?!?

Yes, but no. Genetics do play a role (40-60% of HDL levels are inherited). Your lifestyle is more important though – you can outmaneuver your DNA.

Your Body, Your Rules : The (Punk Rock) Experiment

Instead of blindly following health advice, track what actually works for you. On Notion, I keep a daily health log that includes dietary goals, exercise tracking, a food log, & room for reflection.

Start small, & reduce your misery :

  • Swap one bad habit at a time
  • Experiment with food, movement, & stress management
  • Get labwork redone periodically & see what helps

Own Your Health Without Losing Your Edge

Lowering cholesterol doesnโ€™t mean selling out – you can take control without becoming a health obsessed robot. Itโ€™s more about balance than restriction. Donโ€™t eat like a jerk, move your ass, & chill the fuck out. Just like any other goal or habit – plan some stuff, test it out, keep track, reflect, & pivot as needed. Find what works, & screw the rest.

โœŠ If this fired you up in a good way, give it a share, hit โ€œlike,โ€ and donโ€™t forget to sign up for my weekly newsletter zen BLITZ โ€” where punk meets practical and we figure out this whole health/life thing without losing our edge.

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Where Iโ€™m At #8

โ€œAll I want for Easter is my 2 front teethโ€ ๐Ÿ˜‚

โ€œWhere Iโ€™m atโ€ posts are just regular updates about whatโ€™s going on, based on the areas / roles in my life. Any particular goals Iโ€™m working on will be highlighted, so you can easily see what Iโ€™m actively working on improving. Leave a comment & give me ideas for things youโ€™d like to see me write individual posts about!

  • planner : I SOO want to do a BuJo again, & it just doesnโ€™t make any sense lol! I use my blog BuJo, but I miss setting up daily pages for my life – adding stickers & washi, & just having a linear notebook. Itโ€™s such a waste of time & money though. Notion has been rocking my world for like a year now lol. Anyway, Iโ€™m planning for BooBooโ€™s 6th birthday – I hope she has fun!! Our little tea party this past month was cute & fun (& I found out Iโ€™m gonna be a step grandma! Omfg!! ๐Ÿ˜ญ) And I really need to plan a concert or 2 this summer – itโ€™s been too long (last show I went to was Flogging Molly in 2019 ๐Ÿ˜ญ)!
  • self (body & mind, emotion & education) : Well, Iโ€™ve been on a pretty interesting DIY diet & doing more intentional exercise, & itโ€™s all been going pretty well (as far as I can tell) – I feel better, overall. (Stay tuned for my next post to see why Iโ€™m going crazy with it now, heh.) I set up a class that Iโ€™ve been taking with ChatGPT on various topics within Stoicism, Buddhism, & psychology, & Iโ€™ve been loving every second of it!
  • marriage (relationship & libido) : Allโ€™s pretty good hehe. Weโ€™re both working on being more intentional with our time together. I got my wedding rings resized, & so Iโ€™m super excited to be able to wear them all the time again!!!
  • mom (BooBoo & Bubby) : The girls are good! Both are super excited to get outside more!
  • teacher (K & PK) : Schoolโ€™s been chugging along. They both love science & art. Bubbyโ€™s doctor agrees that sheโ€™s probably dyslexic, so I need to have her tested with the school soon – Hubbyโ€™s dyslexic, so heโ€™s been working with her to identify letters more โค๏ธ
  • zB : Iโ€™m loving writing this blog! ๐Ÿฅฐ I started a weekly newsletter (sign up here!), & Iโ€™m hoping to expand it a bit in the future, but Iโ€™m glad Iโ€™ve got it started hehe. Iโ€™m working on my social media strategy this month, but Iโ€™m a bit behind because I needed to write an extra post for the month heh. Thatโ€™s ok though – โ€œThrow the timeline out the window, itโ€™ll take what it takes!โ€
  • homemaker (finance, cleaning, gardening, prepping, travel) : Uhโ€ฆ Allโ€™s pretty good! Lots of cleaning to do, but at least Iโ€™m keeping up with maintenance fairly well heh. Iโ€™ve decided to say fuck it to the garden this year; hubby can do what he wants, if he wants. Same with travel – Iโ€™ll wait til our bus is ready to camp in before I bother to start making plans.

Currently

eating : Vegetables LOL

drinking : black coffee โ˜•

watching : Echoes seems pretty interesting. Younger is still a favorite! Alpha Males has been pretty funny!

reading : Everything is Fucked by Mark Manson

playing : Nothing, really

buying : Birthday gifts for BooBoo, & Pair Eyewear (Iโ€™m excited – hopefully theyโ€™re not too dorky hehe)

listening to : โ€œWish I Knew Youโ€ by The Revivalists, โ€œRevolution Radioโ€ by Green Day, & โ€œBurritosโ€ by Sublime are current favorites

celebrating : BooBoo!!

pinning : Green Day, exercise, fashion, & food

planning : BooBooโ€™s bday

feeling : Ok. My backโ€™s been bothering me a lot though ๐Ÿ˜•